The affirmation when you need it is up to you to discover and implement. If that's too circular, when the brain's doing bowl-of-snakes stuff why not go to known relief, i.e. age-aided wisdom, and accept the perfect as a go-to course of action. Yes, you can ask when are you going to learn? but time C A N be a premium based on the imagined remaining days. Notice the absence of malice here thanks to staying the course. A simple sign-off on contempt isn't surrendering but more like finesse. Not the chess-like variety but Life Actual event participant flavor. That keeps the crushers away so that the michelin-aspired guys get noticed.

Holy Baptismo, Octoberman - seems like we've groundhogged to an effective combo of
1) know when to shut up
2) accept the glide version
so here's to fingers-crossed Bim-sala-bim

Getting within sight of Oz is plenty fino